Are you kidding?

Today I went to the office supply store to get tonor for my cartrige and a box of paper. At that point, my infant started stuffing something he found from the dirty cart into his mouth as my four year old fell to the ground refusing to walk declaring that his “legs don’t have any more walking in them.”

I dumped his 53 pounds in the cart (he’s tall for his age) – and let him sit on top of the box of paper which must have been filled with cement. As I waited in line for the one cashier on duty at 3 in the afternoon, my infant starts screaming as my son pokes him in the back. I ask my son to stop and he throws a fit. I know they are tired. It’s naptime for the baby. My son turns bright red and howls.

The woman glared at me.

I smiled at the neatly pressed woman in line behind me who is huffing at the cacophony that has befallen my spawn and apologize.

“Sorry,” I said, “I am a working mom, trying to get it all done.”

She sneered at me and pointedly said, “well, then shouldn’t you be working?”  She tapped her blackberry and ignored me.

I could have smacked her.  When did women get so hostile toward each other?  I work too! I just might not be in a pretty, creased suit with a perfect manicure.  So my kids are a mess. So my hair is a mess. I earn a living too.

Why are the bridges between working women, stay at home mothers, working mothers so far apart?

One thought on “Are you kidding?

  1. Say it sista!! I can’t tell you how out of place I felt going back to the work world after my first was born, and then openly admitting that I would prefer to be with him… Many of my female colleagues looked at me like I was crazy! It’s almost as if the mother who chooses to stay at home is seen as crazy! I think now that women have become so prevalent & skilled in the workplace, it’s as if we don’t feel we can be seen as the ‘stereotypical’ at home mom-maybe it’s seen as a waste of skills. Maybe that’s why there’s a bridge between us. I am a work from home mommy, with 2 kids under 3 at my ankles as I try to get things done, and I wouldn’t have it any other way. I am never stressed, I don’t have to miss everything, and I am never forced to make a choice between the 2. I don’t think I could go back to the ‘grind’ and I give good credit to the women who can. To each their own of course, it’s just not my thing anymore (and believe me, I never thought I would say any of this, a few years ago I was convinced that I would never give up my corporate job)!

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