Someone once told me that starting my own company would make me a very lonely woman. They were wrong. In the formation and running of Motherhood Incorporated I have come to know and admire women who have become my friends. As we head into a new year and have a planned expansion of this company into different markets and overseas, my reliance on my friends – old and new grows stronger.
I know this is going to sound awful, but it even renews my faith in my “stupid” friends. Now just hold on before you send me a nasty email, or write a blistering comment – by Stupid Friends I mean the friends you can share your Stupid moments with. You know them, we all have them. When you goof up or perform badly, it’s always good to turn to your stupid friends where you can really be stupid – and embrace that stupidity.
Friends come in all shapes – we have work friends, and girl friends…we have mom friends and family friends. For all these friends – we wear different faces. Our stupid friends laugh at our mistakes with us and share their own stupid moments so we don’t feel badly about what we have done or said. I remember once telling my stupid friend about how I choked in an interview and made some joke that horrified the interviewer and didn’t really realize until the next day how utterly ignorant it made me sound. And this was a few days after I graduated with my Master’s Degree from Northwestern.
Did my stupid friend laugh with me, yes! Did my stupid friend share with me her own story, yes!
My Stupid Friend told me how she had wangled and dangled until she finally got a date with a man she had been lusting after for three years. She made him this beautiful dinner and accidentally set her dried centerpiece on fire with the candles. Thinking she was going to be a huge hero she threw her drink on the flames. Her table erupted in a huge fireball that she believes scorched his eyebrows. Her drink – yep – booze. Booze on a fire -not good. Would definitely fall into the Stupid category.
When we goof up and do things that are not our best, it helps to have our stupid friends around…starting and running my own company has lead to a lot of stupid moments – and for that I am glad to have my stupid friends around.
I don’t know if you have watched her show. She has been on a long time but I have only recently discovered her. She has her own show and a line of cook books that I now own. She makes dumping things together into a bowl and tossing it into the over for 20 minutes look elegant. Her ever changing kitchen designs and her coordinating outfits are fun to watch. Moreover, her recipies I can do.
Don’t get me wrong I can cook. I just don’t want to cook. I don’t have the time, nor the energy and after making dishes for 10 years for people who gag, clamp their lips shut at anything new or just slid off their chair at anything different, cooking has gotten to be…well, a little less fun. Cooking has made me one stressed out mom so now I avoid it. Or at least I did until I discovered Semi Home Made.
I love her definition of Semi-Home Made…a stress-free solution based formula that provides savvy shortcuts and affordable, timesaving tips for overextended do-it-yourself home makers. The only problem I have is with the do-it-yourself home maker…really is there any other kind? I don’t know of any mother who doesn’t have to do at least some of it herself – even my affluent friend moms have to strip a sheet in the middle of the night or throw together a last minute egg based meal.
Beyond that, I really do appreciate her ability to toss cans, bottles, jars and bags of stuff together and make it taste good. These meals won’t win any nutrition awards but really, when you are dead on your feet and trying to feed hungry sqwaking kids – does it really matter? And its a lot better than McD’s or BK.
Here is our suggestion for the day. Remember….we’d love to hear your suggestions and that the objective is not necessarily to do the one we are suggesting. Just do one thing that will make someone’s day.
Make a pit stop at a local elderly residence or elderly neighbors and see if there is any way you can help with the holiday decorating. Take the kids with you….that way you make a whole bunch of people’s day! If you have extra time (Ha! Ha!) you can have the kids make something you can bring along. By Deb Gillespie and Dahna Weber