Archive | March 2013

Military Mom Talk Radio with Sandra Beck and Robin Boyd feature author Mike Guardia – Shadow Commander, Barbara Allen – Front Toward Enemy, and fitness coach Autumn Arnold, March 25th

Shadow_Commander_CoverIn a career which spanned over thirty years, Donald D. Blackburn was a true hero of the Army Special Forces.  Shadow Commander is his story.  Amidst the chaos of the American defeat on Bataan in April 1942, Army Captain Donald D. Blackburn escaped to the jungles of North Luzon, raising a remarkably effective guerrilla regiment known as “Blackburn’s Headhunters.” Blackburn’s World War II exploits were but the first in a storied life that took him to the highest echelons of the U.S. military.  Shadow Commander follows Blackburn from World War II to his days as a one of the pivotal figures in the development of America’s Special Forces.

Following World War II, Blackburn played a key role in initiating Special Forces operations in Southeast Asia, taking command of the highly classified Studies and Observations Group (SOG), which targeted Communist incursions along the Ho Chi Minh Trail. In the wake of the CIA’s disastrous Leaping Lena reconnaissance program, Blackburn revitalized Special Operations in Vietnam, and later conducted full-scale operations against the NVA and Viet Cong infiltrating the south via Laos.  Following his return to the U.S., Blackburn was appointed “Special Assistant for Counterinsurgency and Special Activities,” where he was the architect of the Son Tay Prison Raid, the largest Special Forces operation of the Vietnam War.

Mike Guardia is an Armor Officer in the United States Army.  He holds a BA and MA in American History from the University of Houston.  As an author, his interests include the history of guerrilla warfare, armored warfare, and World War II in the Pacific.  He is the author of the critically-acclaimed book American Guerrilla: The Forgotten Heroics of Russell W. Volckmann by Casemate Publishers, and the forthcoming US Army and Marine Corps MRAPs, scheduled for release this November from Osprey Publishing.  He is currently stationed at Fort Bliss, Texas.

FTEBarbara Allen is the widow of 1LT Louis Allen, who was killed in Iraq in June of 2005. Her award-winning book, “Front Toward Enemy” chronicles the personal and factual accounts of her husband’s murder at the hands of a fellow soldier, and the subsequent acquittal of his killer. How can American soldiers be at risk among their fellow soldiers? How could these murders have been prevented, and how could this government allow a killer to go free?
Front Toward Enemy is the personal and factual account behind the scenes of a case that is to the military judicial system what the O.J. Simpson case is to the civilian judicial system.

Barbara is currently at work on her second book, expected to be published in 2014. In addition to her work as an author and a freelance writer, Barbara is co-founder of Bold Biographies, a business dedicated to writing personal biographies for her clients to pass down in their families.

Barbara received a Masters degree in Criminal Justice from American Military University, and actively reaches out to other families grappling with the military judicial system. She continues to pursue the Purple Heart for her husband, as the government has thus far refused to classify Lou’s death as “Hostile.”  She resides in NY with her four boys.

Air Force Moms, Air Force Talk Radio, Air Force Wives, Armed Services Talk Radio, ArmWives, Army Mom Talk Radio, Army Moms, Army Talk Radio, Boy Scouts, Coast Guard Talk Radio, Facebook, Facebook Military Mom, Fisher House, Girls Scouts, Go Army Homes, itunes, Itunes Military Mom, Marine Mom Talk Radio, Marine Moms, Marine Talk Radio, Marine Wives, Military Family Radio Show, Military Mom Talk Radio, Military Radio Show, Military Writers Society of America, Navy Mom Talk Radio, Navy Moms, Navy Talk Radio, Navy Wives, Operation Gratitude, PODS, Robin Boyd, Sandra Beck, Shining Service Worldwide, Toginet, Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (TAPS), Twitter, Twitter Military Mom, VA Hospitals, VAMBOA, World of Children, Wounded WarriorsAutumn Arnold is a single mom of two small children, and was looking for some serious help.  Plagued with depression, fatigue, heartburn, and high blood pressure, she found a nutrition program that after only two weeks of starting the program, saw a great imporvement in her heartburn and high blood pressure and her energy shot through the roof.  But the best part, she says, is that she has lost 33 pounds and gone from a size 20 to a size 14 and still going.

Autumn is helping us find the healthy approach to the new year and how we can set realistic goals for ourselves and our families.  She feels empowered to change lives with health and wants you to be empowered, too!!

Military Mom Talk Radio is co-hosted by Sandra Beck and Robin Boyd, hosted by Toginet Radio and powered by Motherhood Incorporated. Military Mom Talk Radio supports and helps bring information to the families, moms and wives of the Army, Navy, Air Force, Marines and Coast Guard and is dedicated to serving our friends and family in the Armed Service. We are proud supporters and members of the Military Writers Society of America as well as proud supporters of Operation Gratitude, Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (TAPS), Shining Service Worldwide, Fisher House and the Girl Scouts of the USA and Boy Scouts of America.

Featured Guest: Dr. Ronit Lami, Poweredup Talk Radio

Dr. Ronit Lami

Dr. Ronit Lami

Our service is offered by a team of associated professionals and is lead by Dr Ronit Lami. Since 2000 Dr Lami’s specialty has been ‘the psychology of money’. Her focus is to help people deal with the soft issues of wealth management. Using her experience as a member of a family business and a consultant psychologist she has developed a specialty, which focuses on the impact that money, wealth and materialism have on the life of individuals, families and organizations.

Some of the subjects that Dr Lami has addressed in her work are:

  Family dynamics and family communication;

  Dealing with affluenza in the family;

  Defining family mission and integrating personal goals;

  Passing family values on to future generations;

  The emotional challenges of estate planning;

  Family Office and the non-fiscal issues;

  Emotional complexity surrounding wealth management;

  Communication: the art of conflict resolution.

  Understanding yourself-understanding your affluent client.

Her Affluenza work has received a great deal of media interest. Dr Lami appears on national and international TV and is regularly interviewed and writes for different newspapers and magazines. Some of her appearances include the CNN, BBC, Forbes, Financial Times, Sunday Times, New Statesman, Sunday Business and the Guardian. Her articles about the psychology of Affluenza have been published in various journals and magazines, and she continually writes, publishes and speaks about the subject in various forums around the world.

Dr Lami graduated Bar Illan University in Israel. She continued her postgraduate studies at Hull University, UK where she received her Doctorate in Psychology and M.Sc. in Industrial Psychology. She is Chartered Psychologist and a member recognized by the British Psychological Society, a registered member of the Californian Board of Psychology, a Licensed Clinical Hypnotherapist and a member of the National Council of Hypnotherapy.

In her work with various organizations she pioneered a process, which examine the connection between Emotional Intelligence and improved performance. Her work on this subject received positive results.

Dr Lami has written academic and non-academic articles on various subjects including the psychology of change and the psychology of affluenza and wealth. Some of her academic papers include: ‘Personal Development: the Concept and its Usage for Individual Coaching, Selection and Training’; ‘The Effect of Experiential Learning on Employees’ Personal Effectiveness’; ‘Understanding the Concept of Coaching in Wealth Management’ and ‘Affluenza and Inheritance’.

PoweredUp Talk Radio stars Sandra Beck of Motherhood Incorporated and Linda Franklin of The Real Cougar Woman. The show airs live Tuesdays at 3pm PST/ 6pm EST and is available for download and lives stream at http://www.powereduptalkradio.comand http://itunes.com. To reach Sandra or Linda please contact them directly at Sandra@PoweredUpTalkRadio.com and Linda@PoweredUpTalkRadio.com.

From New York City to Los Angeles “Powered up with Beck and Franklin” gives women of all ages permission to live the life they have always dreamed of. Why live in black and white when you can choose the brilliance of 3D and Technicolor?
Each week Beck and Franklin and their high-powered guests will be here to cheer you on, to share their challenges, their successes and what they have learned from their failures. It’s all about women supporting women. The stories and practical tips on sex, beauty, money and so much more are designed to help you re-connect to the powerful woman you are.
Fabulous knows no limits. It’s time for you to expand your boundaries.

 

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Bouncing with Style: Forgiveness By Sandra Beck

 

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By Sandra Beck, 1smartchick, bouncing with style

Nearly everyone has been hurt by something someone said, did or didn’t do. When my husband left me with two small children while my mother was dying of breast cancer the words forgiveness did not enter my vocabulary. I was so busy managing the day to day chaos of sickness, a premature baby and an ornery toddler that I didn’t have time for anger, resentment and thoughts of revenge.  I can tell you that during that two year span of time where I also went through a foreclosure, and a deed in lieu of foreclosure.  I had to sell my car and my dog died. I heard from everyone that I needed to do two things: work on myself and forgive.

The working on myself sounded pretty good, but the forgiveness part burned in m heart like a fever. See after growing up in church, it became clear to me I never really understood what forgiveness meant. All I knew then was it was something I needed to do.  My friend who was a doctor told me if I learned how to forgive I would be healthier, have better relationships, and have less anxiety, depression and hostility.  Gee, ya think?

I read all these books and went to seminars that taught me that forgiveness doesn’t mean that I have to deny what happened to me or relieve the other person of responsibility of what they have done.  It doesn’t minimize or justify the wrong.  It just means I have to let go of resentment and thoughts of revenge.   Sounds good.

The one thing I couldn’t figure out was how? How do you forgive when the wrong keeps paying you back day after day and year after year– especially when the affair is in your face in a daily basis and so is the financial devastation in your monthly bank statement?

I tried burning things.  Pictures of him. Pictures of her. A voodoo doll I made. I wrote in a journal mean, hateful, passionate things until my fingers fell off and the marks look like they had been carved there by Satan. I wrote a manifesto and shredded it releasing it into the wind.  I chanted. I meditated. I saged and I burned about 50 white candles to clear out my rage.

Then while sitting in the bathtub at midnight on a Saturday night while my kids slept, I looked out the window and whispered enough.  I was ready to actively choose to forgive the man I married for not seeing the gigantic mistake he made in cheating on me. I was no longer going to define myself by how I had been hurt.  I wasn’t going to teach my children that their mom was so mortally wounded that life did not go on… and get better!

Shortly after, I buried my mom. I let go of the grief of the loss of my marriage and replaced it with the grief over the loss of my mother. I won’t tell you that I have found compassion and understanding for my ex-husband leaving me during such a difficult time. I won’t tell you that I have minimized the hurt I sustained from that betrayal and subsequent abandonment.

I will tell you what you probably know. Time heals all wounds. Chocolate helps a broken heart. Do everything non-destructive and non-intrusive to others during your healing process. If you need to dance around naked in your living room and the drapes are shut and the kids are on overnight do it! There is not one way to arrive at the decision to forgive, it just happens. It happens when you decide to stop punishing yourself for what happened to you.  Bouncing with Style is all about how you take care of yourself as you recover from what life throws at you. You can recover, you can rebound or you can Bounce with Style.

Sandra Beck, owner of Motherhood Incorporated is the host of three popular radio shows Military Mom Talk Radio, Motherhood Talk Radio and Poweredup with Beck and Franklin.

Military Mom Talk Radio with Sandra Beck and Robin Boyd feature three books, Searching For Lincoln’s Ghost, A Passel of Hate, and Forever Growing – A Journey of Trust on March 18th

lincolnghostPeppered with Lincoln folklore, Searching for Lincoln’s Ghost offers an authentic look at coming of age during the tumultuous 1960s, exploring such disturbing topics as personal isolation, fear and depression, bullying, social and racial intolerance.

It is 1966, and Castalia Indiana, like most cities of that time, is grappling with social and cultural change. Meanwhile, rumors have long swirled around Castalia’s Lincoln Elementary School. Over its long history, the school has produced two sixth graders who claim to have seen Lincoln’s ghost in the school’s auditorium. When Andi prays on her dead mother’s rosary to be the next sixth grader to encounter Lincoln’s ghost as “living” proof of an afterlife, a complex chain of events is set into motion, including the appearance of a new boy at school who harbors an explosive secret, and mysterious moaning emanating from the dark stage after school. While Andi desperately seeks answers to life’s most difficult questions, an unlikely new friend emerges—a mystical bait shop owner named Ezra who seems to have all the answers she’s searching for.

In spite of substantive themes, Andi’s search for meaning is a captivating journey that will both delight and pierce the heart. It’s a timeless tale about the power of love, empathy, and how the actions of one person can profoundly impact another.

For more information visit www.barbarajdzikowski.com.

PasselBrutal in its depiction of the harrowing nature of war and the price paid by our revolutionary ancestors, A Passel of Hate and its breakneck pacing forge a relentless adventure full of bravery, horrific violence, and first-rate historical-action entertainment.The fact-based novel vividly describes the tribulations and heartbreak of a frontier family with sons fighting on both sides in the struggle for American independence.

Emotions are split and bitter among the Godley brothers as the British led Loyalist army invades western North Carolina in September, 1780. The farms and homes of residents rebelling against the king are plundered and homes burned. Supporters of freedom are murdered or beaten.  The area is about evenly divided in allegiances, but most people want no part of either side.  This is a vicious civil war of neighbor fighting neighbor, brother fighting brother.

Outraged by the brutality by some Tory partisans, Jacob Godley and his youngest brother joined the Liberty Men while their three brothers and many neighbors take up arms to fight with the Loyalist militia.

Reinforced with frontier militia from ‘over the mountains,’ the Patriots chase the Loyalists eastward, catching them Kings Mountain. The Patriots decisively defeat the Loyalists in a brutal one-hour battle, thereby turning the tide of the war. However, it is a bittersweet victory that results in much anguish for the Godley family.

Gripping, visceral and full of intensity, A Passel of Hate is a recipient of a 2012 Silver Medal from the Military Writers Society of America.

For more information visit www.epleywrites.com

Forever_GrowingRichelle Rodgers is a respected professional in the museum, insurance and franchising industries.  Richelle’s expertise has increased the effectiveness of the following organizations and businesses:  Pennsylvania Department of Public Welfare, PHICO Medical Malpractice Insurance Company, Pennsylvania National Insurance Company, Boabab Culture Center, Rochester Museum and Science Center.  As Collections Manager with the Pennsylvania State Museum she was entrusted with the management of 2 million plus artifacts in Harrisburg, and in 17 historical sites throughout Pennsylvania.

Richelle Rodgers book, Forever Growing—a Journey of Trust is an inspiring testimony to how a relationship with the Lord will guide you through overwhelming events into a life of achievement and fulfillment.

Richelle’s story is a living testimony of how her faith has guided her to emerge victorious and will give a voice to those who are overwhelmed by despair and anger.  Her inspirational writing and speaking will encourage those:  changing their business or career; reinventing themselves, forced to start over or dealing with illness, domestic violence or hard times.  Hope springs eternal in both Richelle’s writing and speaking and she isn’t just talk the talk but has walked the walk.  For anyone who is experiencing upheaval or uncertainty, Richelle’s Forever Growing– a Journey of Trust will inspire you to know that you can:  “Let Go and Let God!

Richelle is a U.S. Army veteran whose professional accomplishments have benefitted numerous community organizations and are testimony to her skills and talents.  The outward accomplishments are only part of the story.  Richelle’s relationship with the Lord and commitment to service to him is the foundation of her life story.  Surviving a childhood where a terrible act of violence penetrated family life, where poverty and racism could have drowned her, Richelle grew in strength and overcame all obstacles to emerge victorious and a dedicated servant to the Lord.

For more information visit www.richellerodgers.com

Military Mom Talk Radio is co-hosted by Sandra Beck and Robin Boyd, hosted by Toginet Radio and powered by Motherhood Incorporated. Military Mom Talk Radio supports and helps bring information to the families, moms and wives of the Army, Navy, Air Force, Marines and Coast Guard and is dedicated to serving our friends and family in the Armed Service. We are proud supporters and members of the Military Writers Society of America as well as proud supporters of Operation Gratitude, Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (TAPS), Shining Service Worldwide, Fisher House and the Girl Scouts of the USA and Boy Scouts of America.

Featured Guest: Michael Russer

Micheal Russer of Heart Open LLC

Micheal Russer of Heart Open LLC

Prior to founding Heart Open LLC, Michael was a highly successful international speaker, author and columnist about the Internet. Then in September of 2011 he began a year-long personal transformation that included a diagnosis of prostate cancer, radical prostatectomy, follow-up intensive radiation treatments and full blown impotence. He considers his resulting impotence to be one of the biggest blessings in his life. It is because of his impotence that he and his partner discovered an entirely new approach to experiencing levels of emotional and physical intimacy that far exceeds anything experienced prior to prostate cancer. It is his personal mission in life to serve other couples who struggle with emotional and physical intimacy due to ED / impotence and use his communications skills experience to share what he has learned.

PoweredUp Talk Radio stars Sandra Beck of Motherhood Incorporated and Linda Franklin of The Real Cougar Woman. The show airs live Tuesdays at 3pm PST/ 6pm EST and is available for download and lives stream at http://www.powereduptalkradio.comand http://itunes.com. To reach Sandra or Linda please contact them directly at Sandra@PoweredUpTalkRadio.com and Linda@PoweredUpTalkRadio.com.

 

From New York City to Los Angeles “Powered up with Beck and Franklin” gives women of all ages permission to live the life they have always dreamed of. Why live in black and white when you can choose the brilliance of 3D and Technicolor?
Each week Beck and Franklin and their high-powered guests will be here to cheer you on, to share their challenges, their successes and what they have learned from their failures. It’s all about women supporting women. The stories and practical tips on sex, beauty, money and so much more are designed to help you re-connect to the powerful woman you are.
Fabulous knows no limits. It’s time for you to expand your boundaries.

 

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Military Mom Talk Radio welcomes Jody Bremer, author Michael Moffett, and Carolyn Howard-Johnson – March 11th

Military Mom Talk Radio, Sandra Beck, Robin Boyd, Doris Rivas Brekke, Itunes, Jody Bremer, Linda Jefferson, Debbie Gregory, Facebook, Twitter, Itunes Military Mom, Facebook Military Mom, Twitter Military Mom, Army Talk Radio, Navy Talk Radio, Marine Talk Radio, Coast Guard Talk Radio, Air Force Talk Radio, Military Radio Show, Military Family Radio Show, Army Mom Talk Radio, Navy Mom Talk Radio, Marine Mom Talk Radio, Air Force Mom Talk Radio, Armed Services Talk Radio, Military Writers Society of America, Operation Gratitude, Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (TAPS), Fisher House, Girls Scouts, Boy Scouts, Shining Service Worldwide, Army Moms, Navy Moms, Air Force Moms, Marine Moms, Army Wives, Navy Wives, Air Force Wives, Marine Wives.Dr. Jody Bremer, family therapist, visits again to continue her discussion about being comfortable seeking out a therapist, the benefits of visiting a therapist, and why it may be the best choice for you!

Today we will address managing relationships and how to keep those bonds strong during stress, separation, or even after reintegration.

Jody appreciates all she has in life: “I have experienced a vast array of life’s challenges, including a life-threatening childhood illness, a stint as a Marine Corps wife, mother to two fabulous children who, thankfully, are well into and almost past their teen years, and completing my Master’s Degree a full 20 years after graduating from high school.

For more about Dr. Bremer, visit www.jodybremer.com

A native Granite Stater, Michael Moffett has taught history and management courses on the high school, community college, and university levels. Moffett also served on active duty with the 3rd Battalion, 5th Marine Regiment from 1983-85. He returned to active duty in 1990 as commanding officer for the Marine Reserve Detachment out of Topsham, Maine, later designated as A-Company of the 1st Battalion, 25th Marines. Captain Moffett led these Marines to the Persian Gulf where they were attached to the 1st Marine Division for Operation Desert Storm and the liberation of Kuwait. Lt Col Moffett again returned to active duty after the 9/11 attacks, serving on General Tommy Franks’ Operations Staff at Central Command.

Lt Col Moffett later served as Director of the Marine Corps Enlisted Commissioning Education Program’s (MECEP) Prep School from 2003-2008. He joined Marine Corps University’s History Division in 2008, where he co-authored a monograph on the history of the Marine Corps Mountain Warfare Training Center with Major General Orlo Steele (USMC, retired). In January 2010, LtCol Moffett received one-year orders to serve as a field historian in Afghanistan. After retiring from the Marine Corps Reserve in 2011, Professor Moffett returned to Concord, N.H., where he teaches at the New Hampshire Technical Institute (NHTI-Concord) and writes a column for the Weirs Times (www.weirs.com).

In 2012 Warriors Publishing Group published the critically-acclaimed “FAHIM SPEAKS: A Warrior-Actor’s Odyssey from Afghanistan to Hollywood and Back,” co-authored by Professor Moffett and Fahim Fazli, an interpreter Moffett met in Afghanistan. The book received the Gold Medal  for “Best Military Biography” from the Military Writers Society of America (MWSA) on Sept. 29, 2012.

Born and raised in Kabul, Afghanistan, Fahim Fazli enjoyed a relatively privileged childhood until the Russians invaded his country. As a young adult he supported the resistance and when he and his family got the opportunity they fled first to Pakistan and then eventually to the United States (in 1985). Forced to support his family, Fahim was not able to pursue his passion of acting right away.  Eventually, though, he found work as a Hollywood  extra in 1987. Sixteen years later he finally earned a Screen Actors Guild (SAG) card which positioned him for speaking roles.  Since 2003 Fahim has appeared in numerous movie and television productions, and has also served as a cultural/technical advisor for several movie productions. Most recently, he played an Iranian militant in Ben Affleck’s film “Argo,” which was released on Oct. 12.  Fahim currently lives in Orange County, California, and continues his work in television and movies. His memoir, Fahim Speaks, was released in March of 2012.

Carolyn Howard-Johnson’s first novel, This Is the Place, won eight awards. Her second book, Harkening: A Collection of Stories Remembered, creative nonfiction, won three. An instructor for UCLA Extension’s world-renown Writers’ Program, her book The Frugal Book Promoter: How to Do What Your Publisher Won’t is recommended reading for her classes, was named USA Book News’ Best Professional Book, and was given the Irwin Award. Her second book in the How To Do It Frugally series for writers is The Frugal Editor: Put Your Best Book Forward to Avoid Humiliation and Ensure Success. It won USA Book News and Reader Views Literary Awards and the campaign for it won New Generations Marketing Award. Her chapbook of poetry Tracings, was named to the Compulsive Reader’s Ten Best Reads list and was given the Military Writers’ Society of America’s Silver Award of Excellence. She is also the author of a series of chapbooks in the Celebration Series. They were coauthored with Magdalena Ball and include Cherished Pulse, Imagining the Future and She Wore Emerald Then: Reflections on Motherhood. She is the recipient of the California Legislature’s Woman of the Year in Arts and Entertainment Award; her community’s Character and Ethics Committee awarded her work promoting tolerance with her writing. She was also named to Pasadena Weekly’s list of 14 “San Gabriel Valley women who make life happen.” She blogs at Writer’s Digest 101 Best Website pick, www.sharingwithwriters.blogspot.com.

Military Mom Talk Radio is co-hosted by Sandra Beck and Robin Boyd, hosted by Toginet Radio and powered by Motherhood Incorporated. Military Mom Talk Radio supports and helps bring information to the families, moms and wives of the Army, Navy, Air Force, Marines and Coast Guard and is dedicated to serving our friends and family in the Armed Service. We are proud supporters and members of the Military Writers Society of America as well as proud supporters of Operation Gratitude, Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (TAPS), Shining Service Worldwide, Fisher House and the Girl Scouts of the USA and Boy Scouts of America.

Bouncing with Style: Have you Seen my Self-Esteem? By Sandra Beck

 

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By Sandra Beck, 1smartchick, bouncing with style

When people hear my story of heroically leaving a cheating husband while my mother dies of cancer with two small babies while building a solid business and creating two popular radio shows it sounds really glamorous. Even to me and I lived it, but I’m here to tell you the truth.

My husband moved out and he had been living in a spare bedroom for a year so you would think it wouldn’t be a shock to my system, but it was. I cried every day for 43 straight days. I noted it on my planner because I thought if I hit 45 days I will go in to the doctor and be treated for depression. Just like I know as long as I remember the Battle of Hastings was in 1066 that I haven’t lost my mind. I haven’t figured out a plan for crazy, I figure it’s enough to just wonder if you are crazy to prove that your aren’t.

Day 44 I stopped crying. I didn’t leave my home office except to get my kid from kindergarten. My other one was home and my nanny helped me care for him while I built my business. What once had been a beautiful closet appointed with fine handbags, shoes and expensive garments now stood like a dusty mausoleum to another life and time.  My ex-husband when he left, left everything behind.

I left it alone, like someone does after a death. My new uniform became Yoga Pants and a Black Batman T-shirt. I had about 7 different ones – all black, all with silver gold and yellow. All that symbolized to me the Bat Shield and no one could ever hurt me again. Pathetic. Dramatic. You bet. I did that for months.

One day I was in a hurry to pick up my son. I left my office and darted out of the house nary taking a moment to glance in the mirror.  Clearly I violated many traffic laws on the way not glancing in the rear view mirror or the side view mirror.  As I approached the elementary school I could see the reflection of a woman walking into the school.  Her hair was piled on top of her head jammed with a pencil. The faded Yoga Pants hung off her hips and the Batman shirt clung to her white, flabby arms.

One of the mom’s walking out at the same time I was walking in gave me the strangest look. I took it as the abject humiliation of a woman betrayed when in reality I had somehow in my fatigue, business and over work had drawn all over the side of my face with a pink highlighter.  I grabbed my son and scooted out of the school like I had leprosy.

I didn’t go home I headed to TJ Maxx, Ross, Walmart and Target buying at least 6 or 7 large mirrors. I hung them all over my house.  It was the opposite of sitting Shiva where you don’t want to see yourself grieve.  I needed a big get real wake up call.  I need a mirror to reflect back to me just how far I left myself go.

I needed to face where I was so I could Bounce back with Style. I won’t say that I always look like a fashion plate when I leave the house, but when I do look half-baked with drippy icing and mold growing on my crusts I’m gonna know it. The mirrors also kept me from eating myself out of or into depression. It’s hard to hide from yourself, what you are doing to yourself, what you are doing when no one is watching when you have to face yourself in the mirror.

Feng shui and the placement of mirrors might work for moving energy, but hanging those mirrors everywhere got my pale, drained, messy, highlighted and not in a good way being out into public without calling for a straight jacket.  Try the mirror trick and see if it helps you like it did me Bounce with Style.

Sandra Beck, owner of Motherhood Incorporated is the host of three popular radio shows Military Mom Talk Radio, Motherhood Talk Radio and Poweredup with Beck and Franklin.