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Bouncing with Style, By Sandra Beck, Military Mom Talk Radio

I talk a lot about Bouncing. I like the word “Bounce” because it says to me that we just get knocked down and bounce right up again like a rubber ball. “Bounce” also sounds fun. I mean really how much fun are the words “recovery”, “adjustment” and “rebound.”

Chances are if you are alive reading this you will go through death, financial loss, separation and probably divorce in this lifetime at some point or another.  I got hit with all of those in the past few years all at once and it seemed like it would never end. My life was like a wave of pain that kept washing over me – only it didn’t cleanse me it just hurt.
Life is full of hurts and I think the military family goes through more than most civilian families. They have to say goodbye a lot more. They have to change a lot more. They also wonder if mom or dad is ever coming home and if they are what will that be like. These are some of the special conditions that our military families face on a daily basis. One of my radio show guests moved 19 times in “her” military career as did “her children.”  Yeah, it was the “dad” who served but one when enlists the whole family comes along for the ride.  I call the kids the “littlest soldiers” because they are serving too.

Because life is hard and bad things happen to all of us, I have learned that the way I phrase it in my head makes a big difference in my day.  If I get up and “bounce” I smile. If I am in “recovery” I frown.  Same things happened to me, but the way I choose to phrase them in my head make all the difference.

Take my divorce. It sucked. I was cheated on, then left alone with little kids and got the bills dumped on my head while my mom died of breast cancer. Any way you slice it – it sucked.  I could use the word “divorced” but that has such an icky feel to it. I choose the word “recycled” and I feel like I am helping the planet at the same time.

I don’t like to say I am in “abuse recovery” either.  That just sounds dismal. So I choose the phrase “I’m bouncing with style.”  And what does style mean??? – it means getting up every day , fixing my hair…putting on something other than sweats and greeting my future.  Do I hit the mark every day – not a chance.  But I try and do my best to phrase things in my head in a way that serves me.  Why do it any other way?  When life bowls me over, I bounce.  Do you?

Sandra Beck is the host of Military Mom Talk Radio a show dedicated to bringing issues, solutions and up to date information to our Military Families.  Mondays 2pm PST on Toginet.com. Also available for free on Itunes.  Sandra Beck is a writer for MilitaryConnection and a member of VAMBOA and Military Writer’s Society of America This Article appeared on http://www.militaryconnection.com.

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Motherhood Talk Radio hosted by Sandra Beck, Christy Holly and Rick Swanson presents Danee Kiernan Bouncing with Style: Starting over but Not From Scratch July 12

Motherhood Talk Radio hosted by Sandra Beck, Christy Holly, and Rick Swanson welcomes Danee Kiernan Bouncing with Style: Starting over but Not From Scratch.

Motherhood Talk Radio, Motherhood Incorporated, Sandra Beck, Rick Swanson, Christy Holly, Mom Talk Radio, Mommy Talk Radio, Talk Radio for Moms, Embracing Motherhood, Motherhood Radio, Parenting Talk Radio, Parent Talk Radio, Talk Radio for Parents, Embracing Parenthood, Parent Radio, Mom Radio, Mommy Radio, Woman Talk Radio, Women Talk Radio, Women’s Issues Talk Radio, Women’s Health Talk Radio, Work At Home Mom Talk Radio, Women Power Talk Radio, Smart Women Talk Radio, Stupid Diet Guy Talk Radio, Stupid Diet Guy, Los Angeles Talk Radio, California Talk Radio, Dating Advice Talk Radio, Marriage Advice Talk Radio, Divorce Advice Talk Radio, Wedding Advice Talk Radio, Relationship Advice Talk Radio, Free advice on dating, free advice on marriage, free advice on divorce, free advice on weddings, free advice on relationships, free relationship advice, women’s issues shows, women’s issue show, talk radio los angeles, free cooking advice, cooking talk radio, family matters, advice for families, free advice for families, free adoption advice, advocate for women, crafting for moms, mommy crafts, beading, care packages for soldiers, child adoption services, empowerment thinking, optimal thinking, culture building, diversity training, eldercare talk radio, nutrition talk radio, fit to strip challenge, friend ship talk radio, girlfriend talk radio, girlfriend advice on dating, girlfriend advice on marriage, girlfriend advice on wedding, girlfriend advice on relationship, stupid diet guy on dating, stupid diet guy on marriage, stupid diet guy on divorce, stupid diet guy on weddings, stupid diet guy on relationships, pet health care, pet health insurance, Zestra, SempraeAs an author, speaker, parent and entrepreneur, Danee Kiernan enjoys her busy life as much as she enjoys sharing stories of the heart with others.  Whether she is writing, conversing one on one, or presenting to a large group, Danee shares her belief that destiny is a matter of choice, not chance. Her strategies for emotional survival, personal empowerment and engagement in life, stem from not only her own experiences, but also the life journeys shared by others along the way.

 

Danee Kiernan is the co-author of Bouncing with Style.  In this project, Danee Kiernan and Sandra Beck partner to share their discovery of stepping stones and successful strategies from women who have experienced hardship and traveled the road to recovery with conviction and confidence.  The result is a culmination of real life recommendations designed to help others navigate life’s challenges with grace and style.  

 

Danee Kiernan is the owner of Aris Partners, Inc., an executive recruiting firm and Tablefor14, an adoption advocacy group.  As an advocate for the rights of women and children, Danee Kiernan supports Heifer International, Children Uniting Nations, World of Children, FRUA (Families for Russian and Ukrainian Adoption), LAAF (Latin American Adoptive Families), Voices United as well as other organizations committed to the well being of women and children. 

 

Danee Kiernan makes her home in Wisconsin, where she and husband Jim, are thoroughly enjoying the experience of raising their 12 children.  She earned a Bachelor’s degree in Elementary Education from Iowa Wesleyan College and MBA from the University of Wisconsin.

 

You can reach Danee Kiernan at daneekiernan@gmail.com

 

Motherhood Talk Radio is co-hosted by Sandra Beck, Christy Holly and Rick Swanson, hosted by Toginet Radio and powered by Motherhood Incorporated.  Motherhood Talk Radio would like to thank our guest who have spoken with respect to motherhood on the following topics: women’s issues, parenting, relationship advice, personal growth, divorce, marriage, dating, weddings, relationships, health care, pet health, crafting, beading, relationship advice, cooking, family matters, care packages for soldiers, nutrition, child adoption, children with brain injuries, children’s advocacy, autism, cancer, eldercare issues, child care issues, personal growth and parenting issues.