Archives

Bouncing with Style, By Sandra Beck, Military Mom Talk Radio

I talk a lot about Bouncing. I like the word “Bounce” because it says to me that we just get knocked down and bounce right up again like a rubber ball. “Bounce” also sounds fun. I mean really how much fun are the words “recovery”, “adjustment” and “rebound.”

Chances are if you are alive reading this you will go through death, financial loss, separation and probably divorce in this lifetime at some point or another.  I got hit with all of those in the past few years all at once and it seemed like it would never end. My life was like a wave of pain that kept washing over me – only it didn’t cleanse me it just hurt.
Life is full of hurts and I think the military family goes through more than most civilian families. They have to say goodbye a lot more. They have to change a lot more. They also wonder if mom or dad is ever coming home and if they are what will that be like. These are some of the special conditions that our military families face on a daily basis. One of my radio show guests moved 19 times in “her” military career as did “her children.”  Yeah, it was the “dad” who served but one when enlists the whole family comes along for the ride.  I call the kids the “littlest soldiers” because they are serving too.

Because life is hard and bad things happen to all of us, I have learned that the way I phrase it in my head makes a big difference in my day.  If I get up and “bounce” I smile. If I am in “recovery” I frown.  Same things happened to me, but the way I choose to phrase them in my head make all the difference.

Take my divorce. It sucked. I was cheated on, then left alone with little kids and got the bills dumped on my head while my mom died of breast cancer. Any way you slice it – it sucked.  I could use the word “divorced” but that has such an icky feel to it. I choose the word “recycled” and I feel like I am helping the planet at the same time.

I don’t like to say I am in “abuse recovery” either.  That just sounds dismal. So I choose the phrase “I’m bouncing with style.”  And what does style mean??? – it means getting up every day , fixing my hair…putting on something other than sweats and greeting my future.  Do I hit the mark every day – not a chance.  But I try and do my best to phrase things in my head in a way that serves me.  Why do it any other way?  When life bowls me over, I bounce.  Do you?

Sandra Beck is the host of Military Mom Talk Radio a show dedicated to bringing issues, solutions and up to date information to our Military Families.  Mondays 2pm PST on Toginet.com. Also available for free on Itunes.  Sandra Beck is a writer for MilitaryConnection and a member of VAMBOA and Military Writer’s Society of America This Article appeared on http://www.militaryconnection.com.

Advertisements

Military Mom Talk Radio hosted by Sandra Beck and Robin Boyd presents Jody Bremer and the Insider’s Guide to Dating after Divorce, May 23

Motherhood Talk Radio, Military Mom Talk Radio, Motherhood Incorporated, Sandra Beck, Rick Swanson, Robin Boyd, Army Talk Radio, Military Talk Radio, Navy Talk Radio, Marine Talk Radio, USMC Talk Radio, USCG Talk Radio, Coast Guard Talk Radio, Air Force Talk Radio, USAF Talk Radio, Toginet, Itunes, Fort Sill, Fort Bragg, Fort Carson, Fort Jackson, Fort Sam Houston, Fort Dix, Fort Campbell, Fort Belvoir, Eglin AFB, Shaw AFB, Fort Hood, Fort Eustis, Fort Leonard Wood, Redstone Arsenal and Fort Bliss, Bahrain Administrative Support Unit, NATO Support Activity Belgium, Bad Kreuznach, Rhein-Main Air Base, Stuttgart/Robinson Barracks, Naval Forces Guam, Kadena Air Base, Torii Station, Aviano Air Base, Department of Defense, Military Family Issues, Military Family Blog, Navy Family Blog, Navy Family Issues, Army Family Blog, Army Family Issues, Marine Family Blog, Marine Family Issues, USMC Family Issues, Air Force Family Issues, Air Force Family Blog, Coast Guard Family Blog, Coast Guard Family Issues, Help for Military Families, Help for Army Families, Help for Marine Families, Help for USMC Families, Help for Coast Guard Families, Help or Air Force Families, Military Charities, Top Military Charities, Shows about the Military, Army Moms, Navy Moms, Air Force Moms, Coast Guard Moms, Marine Moms, Army Wives, Navy Wives, Air Force Wives, Coast Guard Wives, Marine Wives, Army Kids, Navy Kids, Air Force Kids, Coast Guard Kids, Marine Kids, Blue Star Moms, Shows on PTSD, Shows for Military Families, Great information for military families, Great information for army families, Great information for navy families, Great information for coast guard families, Great information for air force families, Great information for marine families, Jody Bremer, Coping with DeploymentMilitary Mom Talk Radio hosted by Sandra Beck and Robin Boyd presents Jody Bremer and the Insider’s Guide to Dating after Divorce.

Jody can be found at www.jodybremer.com .

Jody Bremer is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with the California Board of Behavioral Sciences. She received her Masters of Arts in Clinical Psychology with Emphasis in Marriage and Family Therapy from Pepperdine University, Summa Cum Laude in 2004.

She received her Bachelor of Arts from Tulane University, Magna Cum Laude. Since embarking on her career, Jody has worked with the Irvine School District as a school therapist, concentrating on working with children and families who are suffering from life changes (divorce, death, etc.) and those with Asperger’s Syndrome or other socially challenging needs or skills training.

She received her certification at this time as a Skills Facilitator and Coach for Active Parenting of Children ages 5-12, and Active Parenting of Teens ages 13-18.

In addition, she has focused for a number of years on working with court-sanctioned substance abusers, ranging from first-time offenders in the PC 1000 group to repeat offenders in the Prop 36 program, offering both individual and group therapy as needed. Jody also worked with domestic violence, offering therapy in crisis capacity to the women and children who sought help at Laura’s House, an immediate and short-term shelter and crisis center for domestic violence victims.   

Jody worked at the Drake Institute, a facility specializing in neurofeedback for the treatment of attention-deficit/ hyperactivity disorder in children and adults, as well as Asperger’s and autism. She has worked as a case manager/program coordinator and supportive care therapist for families involved in the treatment at this facility.

Jody received a special certification and verification from the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists in Working with Military and Their Families In Private Practice. Servicemen from the Marines, Navy, Army and Air Force are a significant specialty, allowing her to provide personalized care for all of the military members and their families struggling with the specific hardships the military incurs, such as long-term separations, deployments, and PTSD.

Today, Jody maintains a successful private practice with two offices in Southern California, providing long-term and short-term therapy for individuals, children, couples and families in conflict.  She is the author of the book Looking for that Last First Date – an Insiders Guide to Dating after Divorce.

Military Mom Talk Radio on airs on Mondays at 2pm Pacific Standard Time on Toginet Radio and can be downloaded directly from Itunes and MilitaryMomTalkRadio.com.

Military Mom Talk Radio is co-hosted by Sandra Beck and Robin Boyd and produced by Rick Swanson, hosted by Toginet Radio and powered by Motherhood Incorporated. Military Mom Talk Radio supports and helps bring information to the families of the Army, Navy, Air Force, Marines and Coast Guard and is dedicated to serving our friends and family at the following Army bases:  Fort Sill, Fort Bragg, Fort Carson, Fort Jackson, Fort Sam Houston, Fort Dix, Fort Campbell, Fort Belvoir, Eglin AFB, Shaw AFB, Fort Hood, Fort Eustis, Fort Leonard Wood, Redstone Arsenal and Fort Bliss. We would also like to honor our friends and family at the following over seas installations: Bahrain Administrative Support Unit, NATO Support Activity Belgium, Bad Kreuznach, Rhein-Main Air Base, Stuttgart/Robinson Barracks, Naval Forces Guam, Kadena Air Base, Torii Station, Aviano Air Base.  We would like to thank the Department of Defense for supplying guest and topics.