Bouncing with Style, By Sandra Beck, Military Mom Talk Radio

I talk a lot about Bouncing. I like the word “Bounce” because it says to me that we just get knocked down and bounce right up again like a rubber ball. “Bounce” also sounds fun. I mean really how much fun are the words “recovery”, “adjustment” and “rebound.”

Chances are if you are alive reading this you will go through death, financial loss, separation and probably divorce in this lifetime at some point or another.  I got hit with all of those in the past few years all at once and it seemed like it would never end. My life was like a wave of pain that kept washing over me – only it didn’t cleanse me it just hurt.
Life is full of hurts and I think the military family goes through more than most civilian families. They have to say goodbye a lot more. They have to change a lot more. They also wonder if mom or dad is ever coming home and if they are what will that be like. These are some of the special conditions that our military families face on a daily basis. One of my radio show guests moved 19 times in “her” military career as did “her children.”  Yeah, it was the “dad” who served but one when enlists the whole family comes along for the ride.  I call the kids the “littlest soldiers” because they are serving too.

Because life is hard and bad things happen to all of us, I have learned that the way I phrase it in my head makes a big difference in my day.  If I get up and “bounce” I smile. If I am in “recovery” I frown.  Same things happened to me, but the way I choose to phrase them in my head make all the difference.

Take my divorce. It sucked. I was cheated on, then left alone with little kids and got the bills dumped on my head while my mom died of breast cancer. Any way you slice it – it sucked.  I could use the word “divorced” but that has such an icky feel to it. I choose the word “recycled” and I feel like I am helping the planet at the same time.

I don’t like to say I am in “abuse recovery” either.  That just sounds dismal. So I choose the phrase “I’m bouncing with style.”  And what does style mean??? – it means getting up every day , fixing my hair…putting on something other than sweats and greeting my future.  Do I hit the mark every day – not a chance.  But I try and do my best to phrase things in my head in a way that serves me.  Why do it any other way?  When life bowls me over, I bounce.  Do you?

Sandra Beck is the host of Military Mom Talk Radio a show dedicated to bringing issues, solutions and up to date information to our Military Families.  Mondays 2pm PST on Also available for free on Itunes.  Sandra Beck is a writer for MilitaryConnection and a member of VAMBOA and Military Writer’s Society of America This Article appeared on

Motherhood Talk Radio hosted by Sandra Beck, Christy Holly, and Rick Swanson presents Doris Rivas Brekke on Bank Foreclosure and Losing your Home with Grace

Motherhood Talk Radio, Motherhood Incorporated, Sandra Beck, Rick Swanson, Christy Holly, Robin Boyd, Doris Rivas Brekke,  Foreclosure, Losing your home, Mom Talk Radio, Mommy Talk Radio, Talk Radio for Moms, Embracing Motherhood, Motherhood Radio, Parenting Talk Radio, Parent Talk Radio, Talk Radio for Parents, Embracing Parenthood, Parent Radio, Mom Radio, Mommy Radio, Woman Talk Radio, Women Talk Radio, Women’s Issues Talk Radio, Women’s Health Talk Radio, Work At Home Mom Talk Radio, Women Power Talk Radio, Smart Women Talk Radio, Stupid Diet Guy Talk Radio, Stupid Diet Guy, Los Angeles Talk Radio, California Talk Radio, Dating Advice Talk Radio, Marriage Advice Talk Radio, Divorce Advice Talk Radio, Wedding Advice Talk Radio, Relationship Advice Talk Radio, Free advice on dating, free advice on marriage, free advice on divorce, free advice on weddings, free advice on relationships, free relationship advice, women’s issues shows, women’s issue show, talk radio los angeles, free cooking advice, cooking talk radio, family matters, advice for families, free advice for families, free adoption advice, advocate for women, crafting for moms, mommy crafts, beading, care packages for soldiers, child adoption services, empowerment thinking, optimal thinking, culture building, diversity training, eldercare talk radio, nutrition talk radio, fit to strip challenge, friend ship talk radio, girlfriend talk radio, girlfriend advice on dating, girlfriend advice on marriage, girlfriend advice on wedding, girlfriend advice on relationship, stupid diet guy on dating, stupid diet guy on marriage, stupid diet guy on divorce, stupid diet guy on weddings, stupid diet guy on relationshipsMotherhood Talk Radio hosted by Sandra Beck, Christy Holly, and Rick Swanson presents Doris Rivas Brekke on Bank Foreclosure and Losing your Home with Grace.

Motherhood Talk Radio welcomes Doris Rivas-Brekke, creator of Daily Dialogue with Doris and roving reporter for Military Mom Talk Radio and Motherhood Talk Radio.  Recently, as a reporter on her “News You Can Use” segment, Doris Rivas-Brekke has been reporting on such topics homeless veterans to the collecting coupon-craze.   On this week’s show, Doris Rivas-Brekke talks about a topic that is touching many American lives today; the issue of “home foreclosure”.  Doris talks about her personal experience with losing her home through foreclosure and how to get through this life changing experience with grace and hope.

Doris Rivas-Brekke is a new addition to the Military Mom Talk Radio (MMTR) group.  She is a veteran of the U.S. Army, where she worked as a mental health counselor.  She is also a former business owner, public relations and marketing consultant, a budding author and soon to be host of her own faith-based radio talk show.  Doris Rivas-Brekke earned her Bachelor’s degree in psychology from San Diego State University. Born and raised in San Diego, California, Doris has recently returned to San Diego after having lived many years in Los Angeles.

Doris has many passions, number one is growing roses.  She also loves to write and is working on her auto-biography about her life in the military in the 1970’s, her alcohol addiction and recovery and her new found Christian faith!  She also loves to work out and play with her two cats, Lucky and Coco Chanel and her two dogs, Lady Blackjack and the Princess of Sheba!

Motherhood Talk Radio is co-hosted by Sandra Beck, Christy Holly and Rick Swanson, hosted by Toginet Radio and powered by Motherhood Incorporated.  Motherhood Talk Radio would like to thank our guest who have spoken with respect to motherhood on the following topics: women’s issues, parenting, relationship advice, personal growth, divorce, marriage, dating, weddings, relationships, health care, pet health, crafting, beading, relationship advice, cooking, family matters, care packages for soldiers, nutrition, child adoption, children with brain injuries, children’s advocacy, autism, cancer, eldercare issues, child care issues, personal growth and parenting issues.