By Nicole Perkins
Back in my cubicle days, I had a very specific lineup of things to help inspire me on my desk, a handful of which remain with me today. There’s a mini-print of Monet’s “Wisteria” which brought me to tears when I saw it in person at the Musée Marmottan Monet in Paris.
I also have a photo of “The Dude,” from the movie The Big Lebowski. That movie kills me – and helps remind me to be more laid back.
We also had a Barbie we would dress up and award weekly to someone on our team who went the extra mile – and I was honored to be presented with it when I left to become a mom.
Another item that has made it with me this far is a little flipbook of quotes and inspirational phrases. I love these kind of things – universal quips that help snap you back to reality, especially as a writer. There’s only so much inspiration you can get staring at a blank computer screen!
Before I was a mom, the quote on display was,
“If you obey all the rules, you miss all the fun.” Katharine Hepburn.
You can see where my priorities were! But from the time I found out I was pregnant, and still, to this day, it has remained on,
“I looked on child rearing not only as a work of love and duty, but as a profession that was fully as interesting and challenging as any honorable profession in the world and one that demanded the best that I could bring to it.” Rose Kennedy.
It helps remind me to not just react to my kids and their behavior, but to try and be proactive in their development, which is hard sometimes when you are trying to get so many other things done in a day. There’s only so long we can expect our children to occupy themselves with only our partial attention.
When it feels like I am spending my whole day telling them to be good and NOT do things so I can get something done, it helps me realize why I stayed home in the first place and that maybe it’s time I showed my kids the things they CAN do. The laundry isn’t going anywhere!