Military Mom Talk Radio welcomes Jody Bremer, author Michael Moffett, and Carolyn Howard-Johnson – March 11th

Military Mom Talk Radio, Sandra Beck, Robin Boyd, Doris Rivas Brekke, Itunes, Jody Bremer, Linda Jefferson, Debbie Gregory, Facebook, Twitter, Itunes Military Mom, Facebook Military Mom, Twitter Military Mom, Army Talk Radio, Navy Talk Radio, Marine Talk Radio, Coast Guard Talk Radio, Air Force Talk Radio, Military Radio Show, Military Family Radio Show, Army Mom Talk Radio, Navy Mom Talk Radio, Marine Mom Talk Radio, Air Force Mom Talk Radio, Armed Services Talk Radio, Military Writers Society of America, Operation Gratitude, Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (TAPS), Fisher House, Girls Scouts, Boy Scouts, Shining Service Worldwide, Army Moms, Navy Moms, Air Force Moms, Marine Moms, Army Wives, Navy Wives, Air Force Wives, Marine Wives.Dr. Jody Bremer, family therapist, visits again to continue her discussion about being comfortable seeking out a therapist, the benefits of visiting a therapist, and why it may be the best choice for you!

Today we will address managing relationships and how to keep those bonds strong during stress, separation, or even after reintegration.

Jody appreciates all she has in life: “I have experienced a vast array of life’s challenges, including a life-threatening childhood illness, a stint as a Marine Corps wife, mother to two fabulous children who, thankfully, are well into and almost past their teen years, and completing my Master’s Degree a full 20 years after graduating from high school.

For more about Dr. Bremer, visit www.jodybremer.com

A native Granite Stater, Michael Moffett has taught history and management courses on the high school, community college, and university levels. Moffett also served on active duty with the 3rd Battalion, 5th Marine Regiment from 1983-85. He returned to active duty in 1990 as commanding officer for the Marine Reserve Detachment out of Topsham, Maine, later designated as A-Company of the 1st Battalion, 25th Marines. Captain Moffett led these Marines to the Persian Gulf where they were attached to the 1st Marine Division for Operation Desert Storm and the liberation of Kuwait. Lt Col Moffett again returned to active duty after the 9/11 attacks, serving on General Tommy Franks’ Operations Staff at Central Command.

Lt Col Moffett later served as Director of the Marine Corps Enlisted Commissioning Education Program’s (MECEP) Prep School from 2003-2008. He joined Marine Corps University’s History Division in 2008, where he co-authored a monograph on the history of the Marine Corps Mountain Warfare Training Center with Major General Orlo Steele (USMC, retired). In January 2010, LtCol Moffett received one-year orders to serve as a field historian in Afghanistan. After retiring from the Marine Corps Reserve in 2011, Professor Moffett returned to Concord, N.H., where he teaches at the New Hampshire Technical Institute (NHTI-Concord) and writes a column for the Weirs Times (www.weirs.com).

In 2012 Warriors Publishing Group published the critically-acclaimed “FAHIM SPEAKS: A Warrior-Actor’s Odyssey from Afghanistan to Hollywood and Back,” co-authored by Professor Moffett and Fahim Fazli, an interpreter Moffett met in Afghanistan. The book received the Gold Medal  for “Best Military Biography” from the Military Writers Society of America (MWSA) on Sept. 29, 2012.

Born and raised in Kabul, Afghanistan, Fahim Fazli enjoyed a relatively privileged childhood until the Russians invaded his country. As a young adult he supported the resistance and when he and his family got the opportunity they fled first to Pakistan and then eventually to the United States (in 1985). Forced to support his family, Fahim was not able to pursue his passion of acting right away.  Eventually, though, he found work as a Hollywood  extra in 1987. Sixteen years later he finally earned a Screen Actors Guild (SAG) card which positioned him for speaking roles.  Since 2003 Fahim has appeared in numerous movie and television productions, and has also served as a cultural/technical advisor for several movie productions. Most recently, he played an Iranian militant in Ben Affleck’s film “Argo,” which was released on Oct. 12.  Fahim currently lives in Orange County, California, and continues his work in television and movies. His memoir, Fahim Speaks, was released in March of 2012.

Carolyn Howard-Johnson’s first novel, This Is the Place, won eight awards. Her second book, Harkening: A Collection of Stories Remembered, creative nonfiction, won three. An instructor for UCLA Extension’s world-renown Writers’ Program, her book The Frugal Book Promoter: How to Do What Your Publisher Won’t is recommended reading for her classes, was named USA Book News’ Best Professional Book, and was given the Irwin Award. Her second book in the How To Do It Frugally series for writers is The Frugal Editor: Put Your Best Book Forward to Avoid Humiliation and Ensure Success. It won USA Book News and Reader Views Literary Awards and the campaign for it won New Generations Marketing Award. Her chapbook of poetry Tracings, was named to the Compulsive Reader’s Ten Best Reads list and was given the Military Writers’ Society of America’s Silver Award of Excellence. She is also the author of a series of chapbooks in the Celebration Series. They were coauthored with Magdalena Ball and include Cherished Pulse, Imagining the Future and She Wore Emerald Then: Reflections on Motherhood. She is the recipient of the California Legislature’s Woman of the Year in Arts and Entertainment Award; her community’s Character and Ethics Committee awarded her work promoting tolerance with her writing. She was also named to Pasadena Weekly’s list of 14 “San Gabriel Valley women who make life happen.” She blogs at Writer’s Digest 101 Best Website pick, www.sharingwithwriters.blogspot.com.

Military Mom Talk Radio is co-hosted by Sandra Beck and Robin Boyd, hosted by Toginet Radio and powered by Motherhood Incorporated. Military Mom Talk Radio supports and helps bring information to the families, moms and wives of the Army, Navy, Air Force, Marines and Coast Guard and is dedicated to serving our friends and family in the Armed Service. We are proud supporters and members of the Military Writers Society of America as well as proud supporters of Operation Gratitude, Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (TAPS), Shining Service Worldwide, Fisher House and the Girl Scouts of the USA and Boy Scouts of America.

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Bouncing with Style: Have you Seen my Self-Esteem? By Sandra Beck

 

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By Sandra Beck, 1smartchick, bouncing with style

When people hear my story of heroically leaving a cheating husband while my mother dies of cancer with two small babies while building a solid business and creating two popular radio shows it sounds really glamorous. Even to me and I lived it, but I’m here to tell you the truth.

My husband moved out and he had been living in a spare bedroom for a year so you would think it wouldn’t be a shock to my system, but it was. I cried every day for 43 straight days. I noted it on my planner because I thought if I hit 45 days I will go in to the doctor and be treated for depression. Just like I know as long as I remember the Battle of Hastings was in 1066 that I haven’t lost my mind. I haven’t figured out a plan for crazy, I figure it’s enough to just wonder if you are crazy to prove that your aren’t.

Day 44 I stopped crying. I didn’t leave my home office except to get my kid from kindergarten. My other one was home and my nanny helped me care for him while I built my business. What once had been a beautiful closet appointed with fine handbags, shoes and expensive garments now stood like a dusty mausoleum to another life and time.  My ex-husband when he left, left everything behind.

I left it alone, like someone does after a death. My new uniform became Yoga Pants and a Black Batman T-shirt. I had about 7 different ones – all black, all with silver gold and yellow. All that symbolized to me the Bat Shield and no one could ever hurt me again. Pathetic. Dramatic. You bet. I did that for months.

One day I was in a hurry to pick up my son. I left my office and darted out of the house nary taking a moment to glance in the mirror.  Clearly I violated many traffic laws on the way not glancing in the rear view mirror or the side view mirror.  As I approached the elementary school I could see the reflection of a woman walking into the school.  Her hair was piled on top of her head jammed with a pencil. The faded Yoga Pants hung off her hips and the Batman shirt clung to her white, flabby arms.

One of the mom’s walking out at the same time I was walking in gave me the strangest look. I took it as the abject humiliation of a woman betrayed when in reality I had somehow in my fatigue, business and over work had drawn all over the side of my face with a pink highlighter.  I grabbed my son and scooted out of the school like I had leprosy.

I didn’t go home I headed to TJ Maxx, Ross, Walmart and Target buying at least 6 or 7 large mirrors. I hung them all over my house.  It was the opposite of sitting Shiva where you don’t want to see yourself grieve.  I needed a big get real wake up call.  I need a mirror to reflect back to me just how far I left myself go.

I needed to face where I was so I could Bounce back with Style. I won’t say that I always look like a fashion plate when I leave the house, but when I do look half-baked with drippy icing and mold growing on my crusts I’m gonna know it. The mirrors also kept me from eating myself out of or into depression. It’s hard to hide from yourself, what you are doing to yourself, what you are doing when no one is watching when you have to face yourself in the mirror.

Feng shui and the placement of mirrors might work for moving energy, but hanging those mirrors everywhere got my pale, drained, messy, highlighted and not in a good way being out into public without calling for a straight jacket.  Try the mirror trick and see if it helps you like it did me Bounce with Style.

Sandra Beck, owner of Motherhood Incorporated is the host of three popular radio shows Military Mom Talk Radio, Motherhood Talk Radio and Poweredup with Beck and Franklin.

Featured Guest: Greg Welborn

Greg Welborn First Financial Consulting

Greg Welborn First Financial Consulting

Gregory J. Welborn is a partner at First Financial Consulting. He joined the firm in 1991 and has extensive experience in investment consulting and tax planning. Greg was a pioneer in the development of investment consulting services for individual investors. As a respected authority on personal financial issues, he has assisted Kiplinger’s Personal Finance magazine with their annual “Jump-Start Your Retirement Planning Days” event and has lectured extensively.Greg has also been published in several leading newspapers, including The Orange County Register, The Los Angeles Daily News and The Wall Street Journal. He has written on a wide variety of topics, including:

  • Maximizing returns in a down market
  • Securing your financial future
  • The common traps facing bond investors
  • Improving the value of retirement accounts
  • What to teach your children about money
  • Keeping your broker honest
  • How seniors can protect themselves from financial frauds
  • Managing debt loads

Greg is a member of the National Association of Personal Financial Advisors (NAPFA), which only accepts financial advisors who have met the highest industry and professional standards.

Before joining First Financial Consulting, Greg developed a successful track record in banking, finance and investments. He worked for both Bank of America and Union Bank in commercial lending, international finance and domestic financial services. After leaving banking, he served as Chief Financial Officer and Chief Investment Officer for several privately-held companies.

Greg received a Bachelor of Arts degree from Occidental College, majoring in economics. At Occidental College he also served as President of the Charles Blyth Fund, an alumni-endowed, student-run investment fund, where he received his first practical experience in investment management. Greg went on to receive a Masters of Business Administration degree from the University of Southern California, specializing in finance and investments. He also pursued a masters degree in economics at USC, studying under Art Laffer, an advisor to President Reagan and a leader in the supply-side economics movement.

Greg and his wife, Irene, live in the Los Angeles area with their three children. They are both active in their local community and church. Greg has served in a variety of leadership positions at their church and on their local school’s advisory board.

Contact Greg at gwelborn@firstfinancialconsulting.net

PoweredUp Talk Radio stars Sandra Beck of Motherhood Incorporated and Linda Franklin of The Real Cougar Woman. The show airs live Tuesdays at 3pm PST/ 6pm EST and is available for download and lives stream at http://www.powereduptalkradio.comand http://itunes.com. To reach Sandra or Linda please contact them directly at Sandra@PoweredUpTalkRadio.com and Linda@PoweredUpTalkRadio.com.

 

From New York City to Los Angeles “Powered up with Beck and Franklin” gives women of all ages permission to live the life they have always dreamed of. Why live in black and white when you can choose the brilliance of 3D and Technicolor?
Each week Beck and Franklin and their high-powered guests will be here to cheer you on, to share their challenges, their successes and what they have learned from their failures. It’s all about women supporting women. The stories and practical tips on sex, beauty, money and so much more are designed to help you re-connect to the powerful woman you are.
Fabulous knows no limits. It’s time for you to expand your boundaries.

 

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Military Mom Talk Radio with Sandra Beck and Robin Boyd feature Dr. Suzanne Phillips and veteran correspondent, Stephen Boyd, March 4th

Military Mom Talk Radio, Sandra Beck, Army Moms, Marine Wives, Marine Moms, Wounded Warriors, itunes, Robin Boyd, Operation Gratitude, Go Army Homes, Military Radio Show, Army Talk Radio, Navy Talk Radio, Marine Talk Radio, Coast Guard Talk Radio, Air Force Talk Radio, Navy Moms, Air Force Moms, Navy Wives, Air Force Wives, Fisher House, World of Children, Shining Service Worldwide, Military Writers Society of America, Facebook, Twitter, Itunes Military Mom, Facebook Military Mom, Twitter Military Mom, Military Family Radio Show, Army Mom Talk Radio, Navy Mom Talk Radio, Marine Mom Talk Radio, Armed Services Talk Radio, Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (TAPS), Girls Scouts, Boy Scouts, VA Hospitals, PODS, ArmWives, VAMBOA, ToginetSuzanne B. Phillips, ABPP, CGP, FAGPA is a licensed Psychologist, Psychoanalyst, Diplomat in Group Psychology, Certified Group Therapist and Fellow in the American Group Psychotherapy Association. She is Adjunct Full Professor of Clinical Psychology at the CW Post Campus of Long Island University, N.Y. since 1991 and Postdoctoral Faculty of the Derner Institute of Adelphi University. She on the Board of Directors and is Co-Chair of Outreach for the American Group Psychotherapy Association. She has worked, published and presented nationally and internationally on trauma, couple s, uniformed services, bereavement, relationship addiction, etc.

This week we’ll take a look at Just How Much We Worry – Strategies for Winding it Down.  We all worry, we all have stress.  Suzanne helps us face it, identify it, and keep from being overwhelmed by it.

Suzanne is author of three books and over twenty articles.  Most recently she co-authored, Healing Together: A Couple’s Guide to Coping with Trauma and Post-Traumatic Stress. She has appeared on national TV as well as Radio.  She blogs weekly on Psych Central (Healing Together for Couples) and Healthywomen.com. Her blogs have also appeared on Huffington Press and PBS This Emotional Life. In 2012 She was chosen as Psychologist of the Year for the Suffolk County Psychological Association. She has a private practice in Northport, N.Y. where she lives with her husband. She has two grown sons.

StevePromoStephen Boyd served on active duty in the US Army from 1967 to 1970. He served in Korea in 1968 and Viet Nam from 1969 to 1970.  He has numerous awards and decorations for his military service.

Steve received his Associates degree in Biology , recently returned to receive his Bachelor of Science degree in 2007 and currently is finalizing his PMP certification. You’re never too old for education, he says.

His new experience dealing with the VA came about because of a layoff in 2010. Being without medical coverage, Steve’s wife prompted him into investigating the benefits the VA could offer. What a pleasant surprise he had in discovering a wealth of support at the Manchester, NH VA facility.

He will be featured on Military Mom Talk Radio periodically to discuss veteran resources and VA benefits.

Military Mom Talk Radio is co-hosted by Sandra Beck and Robin Boyd, hosted by Toginet Radio and powered by Motherhood Incorporated. Military Mom Talk Radio supports and helps bring information to the families, moms and wives of the Army, Navy, Air Force, Marines and Coast Guard and is dedicated to serving our friends and family in the Armed Service. We are proud supporters and members of the Military Writers Society of America as well as proud supporters of Operation Gratitude, Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (TAPS), Shining Service Worldwide, Fisher House and the Girl Scouts of the USA and Boy Scouts of America.

Bouncing with Style: Taking a Risk By Sandra Beck

 

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By Sandra Beck

I pushed my stroller into the law office dragging a grape juice stained three year old boy as his little brother pounded on the tray complete with all those little plastic jangling things that were supposed to keep him busy. Clearly they irritated him as he let out a wail and now they also irritated me.  An impossibly groomed receptionist looked alarmed at the rag tag crew that just rolled into her fancy office.

This was a law firm specializing in divorce. This can’t be the first time someone flung cheerios under the fancy leather couches. They should be glad my older son left his “my first black Sharpie” at home.  The cream colored walls with the shiny elegantly striped wallpaper just begged for the wobbly sliding to the left letter “M” he was practicing in pre-school.

I hadn’t planned on filing for divorce with my kids in tow, but since my ex had been awol for the last month and my parents were 2500 miles away dealing with my mother’s breast cancer treatments this was it.  You want my business, you want my retainer…then you get my sticky kids. Oh! And don’t touch the baby he bites.

 I will tell you I was terrified. My fingers were stiff and cold as I dug in my purse for anything that would keep my 3 year old from eating the magazines on the table. They called my name I don’t know how many times and when it finally registered I looked around the empty lobby as if “who me?”

 I told my story to the attorney who asked me why I married the jerk in the first place. I stumbled and stammered. I didn’t know any better. He changed? I made a mistake. I’m stupid?  I grew up? He didn’t? My kids deserved a faithful dad? I was so ashamed to be there. I had no answers. I was completely lost. I wasn’t empowered and I wasn’t comforted. I crawled out of there and I never went back.

 It was months later when I finally got up the nerve to go file again. This time I was still scared to death, but I was calm. The old rude attorney had forced me to look at some unpleasant aspects.  He didn’t sugar coat anything. He told me what I was in for. He told me what opposing counsel would throw at me.  I went home the first time with my tail between my legs.  The second time I was ready.
Armed with tax returns, copies of emails, hotel receipts, phone bills I was ready for battle. California is a no fault state and I really didn’t need any of those things. I was the breadwinner so I wasn’t seeking support. But what that obnoxious attorney did was kick me in the pants to show me that I was taking a risk with my life and my children’s lives without being prepared. This time I was taking charge.

I had to the option of serving my ex at his office, in front of his oafish girlfriend/secretary, at her house where they now lived thinking of a million ways that could humiliate him as he had humiliated me.  But I didn’t. I didn’t need to. I was in charge now. I was no longer sitting on pins and needles waiting to see if my husband would come home after his latest breakup with yet another disempowered, disenfranchised and dishonored woman.  In the end, I called him and gave him the address of the law office and told him he could pick up the papers.

See when you take risks based solely on emotion, you don’t know the outcome. It’s scary. It’s intimidating. It’s very overwhelming.  The first law office I visited when I was completely unprepared was taking a risk- I wasn’t prepared. I was just doing anything I could to escape the pain of betrayal and dragging my babies along for the ride. 

The second law office I visited was when I got real with myself, examined the situation, prepared myself and my family financially, and ultimately took charge of my life.  There are times in life when we have to take a risk- and those are not to be denied. But mostly of the time if we slow down, get real, get prepared we have fewer risks to take and a better experience – the outcome is what the outcome is. But, we know we did our best. . One of the big secrets to Bouncing with Style is turning taking risk into taking charge.

Sandra Beck, owner of Motherhood Incorporated is the host of three popular radio shows Military Mom Talk Radio, Motherhood Talk Radio and Poweredup with Beck and Franklin.

Featured Guest: Maureen McDermut

Maureen McDermut

Maureen McDermut

Beginning with a career in banking, Maureen quickly accelerated to a position as Senior Vice President, developing the entertainment divisions for several Beverly Hills-based financial institutions. Her private banking departments served the personal and film production financial requirements of select customers in the entertainment industry.

During her tenure with Manufacturers Hanover’s private banking division in New York, she was again entrusted with the financial needs of major business and high-profile customers . This extensive experience has instilled in Maureen the discretion and communication skills necessary in dealing with notable clientele requiring privacy, prudence and diplomacy.

Maureen initiated her career as a Realtor in Los Angeles with a position in commercial real estate. Relocating to Santa Barbara over a decade ago, Maureen moved into the field of residential real estate with the prestigious Pitts & Bachmann agency, where she specialized in high-end properties. When the firm was acquired by Sotheby’s International Realty, Maureen retained her position as one of the company’s most esteemed agents. Maureen is consistently in the top 2% of Sotheby’s International Realty agents.

Maureen is passionate about real estate,her kids, and the environment. She is a board member for  Eucalyptus Hill Improvement Association, active in the Cal Parents Capital Campaign for Berkeley, as well as an advisory board member for the capital campaign of La Casa de Maria, a spiritual retreat center in Montecito. She volunteers on a regular basis for a local food pantry.

Maureen is a member of Conservation International’s Emerald Circle, a special community of people who have made a significant commitment to advancing Conservation International’s work, providing the core financial support to help them fulfill their mission.

PoweredUp Talk Radio stars Sandra Beck of Motherhood Incorporated and Linda Franklin of The Real Cougar Woman. The show airs live Tuesdays at 3pm PST/ 6pm EST and is available for download and lives stream at http://www.powereduptalkradio.comand http://itunes.com. To reach Sandra or Linda please contact them directly at Sandra@PoweredUpTalkRadio.com and Linda@PoweredUpTalkRadio.com.

 

From New York City to Los Angeles “Powered up with Beck and Franklin” gives women of all ages permission to live the life they have always dreamed of. Why live in black and white when you can choose the brilliance of 3D and Technicolor?
Each week Beck and Franklin and their high-powered guests will be here to cheer you on, to share their challenges, their successes and what they have learned from their failures. It’s all about women supporting women. The stories and practical tips on sex, beauty, money and so much more are designed to help you re-connect to the powerful woman you are.
Fabulous knows no limits. It’s time for you to expand your boundaries.

 

Click here to listen now:  POWEREDUPTALKRADIO

Military Mom Talk Radio with Sandra Beck and Robin Boyd feature Blythe Lipman, Baby & Toddler Instructions, and author Melissa Bowersock, Marcia Gates: Angel of Bataan, February 25th

blythephoto2Blythe Lipman, author, publisher, teacher, caregiver, consultant, keynote, blogger and baby and toddler expert,  is the owner and CEO of Baby Instructions in Scottsdale, Arizona.   Blythe has 25+ years of experience in the field and cared for over 1000 babies. She has helped new and expectant parents gain the confidence they need to enjoy and care for their little miracles.  There are hundreds of “tips and tricks” to get baby to do what you want – tips you’ve never thought of in  Blythe’s book, “More Help! My Baby Came Without Instructions!” – a collection of the be st and easiest tips ever!  The book is designed for your “Help!” emergencies. It’s fast and easy!

Blythe is also host of Baby and Toddler Instructions on Toginet.com, every Wednesday at 11 a.m. eastern.

Visit www.babyinstructions.com for more info.

Marcia Gates was an Army nurse and prisoner of war during World War II. As an “Angel of Bataan,” she spent three years in a Japanese internment camp in the Philippines. This is her award-winning story, told through her own words and the newspaper clippings, photos and letters collected by her mother. Author Melissa Bowersock is the niece of Marcia Gates.

Melissa Bowersock is an eclectic writer who turns her hand to any kind of story that moves her, be it contemporary, western, fantasy, romance, action/adventure, biography, satire or spiritual. To date she has published 9 novels and 1 biography. She thrives in the Sonoran desert of Southern Arizona with her husband and an Airedale terrier. She is also a certified hypnotherapist.

Learn more about Melissa and Marcia Gates at www.newmoonrising.net.

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Military Mom Talk Radio is co-hosted by Sandra Beck and Robin Boyd, hosted by Toginet Radio and powered by Motherhood Incorporated. Military Mom Talk Radio supports and helps bring information to the families, moms and wives of the Army, Navy, Air Force, Marines and Coast Guard and is dedicated to serving our friends and family in the Armed Service. We are proud supporters and members of the Military Writers Society of America as well as proud supporters of Operation Gratitude, Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (TAPS), Shining Service Worldwide, Fisher House and the Girl Scouts of the USA and Boy Scouts of America.