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The Loneliness of Modern Motherhood – Motherhood Incorporated


By Sandra Beck, Motherhood Incorporated

The loneliness of modern motherhood. You’ve sprained your ankle, you’ve a looming deadline and the nanny’s got toothache. Your husband is busy being executive and important. Who’s your backstop? Who’ll pick up the kids – not to mention make you a cup of tea?swing

I think that working mothers find it harder to ask for help. I have this irrational feeling that now I’ve started to pay for childcare, I should be able to solve all my childcare crises by throwing money at the problem. Unfortunately, I’ve never come across the legendary child-loving teenager looking for occasional work. The girls at my son’s school each seemed to have a second (and sometimes third) job. Their diaries were more jammed than mine.

For evenings, I’ve joined a reputable babysitting agency. They take the hassle out of my hands. Of course, there is a risk in trusting a stranger, but they have good checks, and they always try to send the same person if they can.

For that school-run tight spot, I’m shy about asking other mothers to take on my kids. I’m conscious that I can’t really reciprocate.   Having more than one kid obviously makes it a far bigger favor too. I find it easier to ask for help from other working mums – because I’m very sensitive to looking like I assume stay at home parents have more free time.

In my charmless, grudging, prickly way, I’ve admitted to my parents and in-laws that sometimes the juggling gets tricky. In her opinionated, fussy way, my mum  and dad has started offering me some very well focused support, which has let me to win a little bit of time together on the weekends, and helps me when I have to do overnight business trips.

I’m practicing asking my friends for help too. The words don’t come easy, but I have an especially expressive guttural grunt just for this purpose.




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Daymaker Challenge Day 30 Old Fashioned Help! by Dahna Weber, Deb Gillespie and Liam Weber-Nudel

Help an elder cross the street and ask them how they are.  Simple and timeless.  While they may not need your help they sure do enjoy the company! 

P.S. Do it with your kids.    They love doing good deeds. 

by Dahna Weber, Deb Gillespie and Liam Weber-Nudel.  (really it was entirely Liam’s idea…my 9 year old wonderful boy who is super keen on the Daymaker Challenges and on blogging)!

Daymaker Challenge Day 17- Pass the Pot by Deb Gillespie and Dahna Weber

In the crazy busy time before the holidays when somehow the combination of family, year end obligations and goals overwhelms most of us, it’s hard to find the time to eat properly let alone cook!  So we propose that when you do cook your next meal double the portion and share the meal with another busy family.  Pass your pot over!  You can call them and let them know you are going to do it.  Hopefully they even reciprocate another time! Now ain’t that much better than leftovers??? by Deb Gillespie and Dahna Weber

Daymaker Challenge Day-16 Pass It On By Dahna Weber and Deb Gillespie

This daymaker challenge will be really fun for you and the kids! All you need is a little piece of colored construction paper, the kind your kids are always using for art projects. Cut a piece out in the shape of a heart or something fun. Write a little cheerful note on it. For Example, “Enjoy your day”. Then when you go outside to the market or somewhere public, give it to some one you do not know who happens to be walking by. Then tell them to, “Pass It On!” Spread the joy near and far!

By Dahna Weber and Deb Gillespie

Daymaker Challenge Day-15 Cat's Eyes by Deb Gillespie and Dahna Weber

This idea came from my sister, Anita. Here’s your challenge. Take a ride down to your local animal shelter with your children and spend a couple of hours petting and loving up the cats and dogs there. These animals will be so happy to have your attention. Don’t worry, you don’t have to take one home. Just spend some time with them. It will lighten their hearts. If you really enjoy it and have more free time, volunteer at the shelter a couple of hours each month or week. When you are petting a homeless cat or dog, take a moment to look into its eyes and see them shine.

By Deb Gillespie and Dahna Weber

Daymaker Challenge Day -14 Postcards Go a Long Way by Deb Gillespie and Dahna Weber

In this electronic world that we all live in, we sometimes forget how nice it is to go out to the mail box and find a pleasant surprise waiting for us. We so often receive bills or junk mail. But how long has it been since we have received a personal card or letter from a friend? Wouldn’t it be fun to sit down and write one letter or postcard and send it off to a friend instead of sending that usual email? It is so much more personal to receive a handwritten card rather than an electronic greeting. Sit the kids down and have them write one, too! Postcards do go a long way.

By Deb Gillespie and Dahna Weber 

Daymaker Challenge Day- 13 Baking Smiles by Dahna Weber and Deb Gillespie

I know we are not all bakers. And that includes me! But who doesn’t love freshly baked cookies or muffins? This is your challenge. Bake up a batch of cookies or something delicious and give it away. Sure you can bake an extra batch for yourself. But the point of this challenge is to bake for a smile. Get the kids involved, too! Teach them to bake for smiles.

By Dahna Weber and Deb Gillespie